Have you ever scrolled through your feed and wondered if something’s wrong with you because you’re still single? I’ve been there. It’s like the world is shouting “relationship goals” from every angle while you’re quietly asking God, “What about me?” Society has a funny way of turning singleness into a flaw when in reality, it can be one of the most purposeful seasons of your life. Singleness isn’t a waiting room. It’s not a punishment. It’s a chapter—sometimes quiet, sometimes stretching, but always meaningful.
In this post, I want to share what I’ve learnt and continue to learn during this journey. Because if we let God lead, singleness becomes more than just a relationship status—it becomes preparation, healing, discovery, and purpose.
1. Singleness Is a Time to Seek God
When you’re not pulled in different directions trying to serve others in a relationship, you have space to pour more into your walk with God. Paul actually talks about this in 1 Corinthians 7:32-35. He says that a single person is concerned with the Lord’s affairs, how they can please Him. Married people don’t have that same focus because their time is shared.
This season is a rare opportunity to go deeper in prayer, to study the Word without distraction, to be still and hear God clearly. James 4:8 says, “Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you.” You won’t always have this kind of quiet in life, so make the most of it.
2. Use This Time to Grow
Personal growth isn’t just for self-help books—it’s part of becoming the person God created you to be. One thing I’ve learnt is that becoming “the one” is just as important as waiting for “the one.” This means developing your gifts, getting your finances in order, healing from past wounds, building confidence, and discovering your calling.
Proverbs 18:16 says, “A man’s gift makes room for him.” Your future isn’t on pause—you’re being positioned.
3. Time for Healing
Let’s be real: all of us carry stuff from our past—heartbreak, abandonment, rejection, fear. And many people jump into relationships without healing. But singleness gives you the gift of space to address what’s broken.
The old saying “Hurt people hurt people” is true. So why not take the time now to heal, to forgive, to lay it all before God and let Him restore you? Psalm 147:3 says, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Let this season be your time of mending.
4. Singleness Isn’t a Curse – It’s Normal
We’ve been conditioned to believe that if you’re single, something must be wrong. But the Bible is full of people who served God powerfully and were single. Jesus. Paul. Mary Magdalene. The list goes on.
Marriage is a blessing, yes. But so is singleness. Don’t let people pressure you into relationships just to “look” fulfilled. You’re not less than. You’re not forgotten. You’re just in a different lane—and your lane still leads to purpose.
5. The Beauty of Purity
Let’s talk about purity—yeah, that topic people tend to avoid. In a culture that normalises hookup culture, choosing purity can feel outdated. But it’s still God’s standard.
1 Thessalonians 4:3 says, “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality.” Purity isn’t just about saving sex for marriage. It’s about honouring God with your body, your mind, and your decisions. It’s not easy, but it’s possible—with His help.
6. You Don’t Need to “Fix” Being Single
If your singleness feels like something you need to fix, breathe. You’re not broken. You’re not falling behind. You’re not missing out on life. What if this is exactly where God wants you?
Isaiah 40:31 reminds us, “But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength.” You’re not wasting time—you’re being strengthened.
7. Embrace the Freedom
You can travel. You can serve. You can start a business. You can grow in your calling. The freedom that comes with singleness is a blessing. Paul even says in 1 Corinthians 7:7, “I wish that all of you were as I am”—he was talking about being single. Why? Because he had time and energy to focus completely on his mission.
You’ve got room to build, move, grow—and that’s something to be excited about.
8. Don’t Settle – Set Standards
Being single isn’t about desperation—it’s about discernment. Don’t let loneliness convince you to lower your standards. Singleness is the season where you decide what’s non-negotiable. When you know your value, you won’t settle for just any relationship.
Proverbs 4:23 says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Guard it with standards. Guard it with prayer. Guard it with wisdom.
Final Thoughts
Singleness isn’t a side story—it’s a full chapter, and one worth living well. I’m learning to stop asking, “When will I find someone?” and start asking, “What is God doing in me right now?”
Whether your season of singleness lasts months or years, it is still valuable, still God-ordained, and still full of purpose.
So instead of rushing to the next stage, let’s live this one well. Let’s grow, heal, seek God, love ourselves, and build the life He’s calling us to. The right person will come at the right time, but don’t miss the beauty of what God is doing in you now.
Singleness isn’t a punishment—it’s preparation.
John Thole is the voice behind Beyond Salvation, a blog that captures the highs and lows of life through faith, laughter, and honest reflection. With a passion for storytelling, technology, and spiritual growth, he creates content that resonates with seekers, believers, and anyone navigating life’s journey. Whether sharing personal insights, devotionals, or thought-provoking discussions, John aims to inspire, uplift, and spark meaningful conversations.
